A survey of successful people reveals a surprise: most of them have 10 traits in common that have helped them reach their goals and realize their dreams. And you have to know that achievers are believers, they believe in themselves and in life. Achievers are great dreamers (but not airy-fairy stuffs) answer this question…what dream in life would you have, if you knew you could not possibly fail? The bible says all things are possible to them that believe, the following are the possible steps to making your dream come true.
How you think is everything.
Remember to “think positive” at every opportunity. Visualize success, not failure. Avoid negative environments and people.
Decide on your dreams and goals.
Be specific about your goals. For example, say “I am taking a cooking class next month,” rather than “I would like to take a cooking class sometime.” Create a plan to reach your goals, and stick to it.
Take action.
Goals alone have no meaning; you need to take action to make them real. Don’t let fear hold you back. "Just do it."
Never stop learning.
Take classes, go back to school, read books, join a discussion group. If you are interested in a subject, make time to learn about it. Keep acquiring new skills.
Be persistent and work hard.
You’ve probably heard the expression, “success is a marathon, not a sprint.” Keep your eye on the goal, and keep working toward it. Don’t give up.
Learn to analyze details.
Get all the facts, and ask for input. This will help you make wiser decisions. Acknowledge your mistakes, but don’t beat yourself up. Learn from your mistakes.
Focus your time and money.
When you believe in something, put your attention and energy there. Don’t let people or things distract you.
Don’t be afraid to innovate; be different.
Be true to yourself, and have your own ideas. Following the crowd is a path to mediocrity.
Communicate with people effectively.
Remember that no person is an island. Communicate your thoughts and desires honestly, and encourage others to communicate honestly with you. Practice understanding and motivating other people.
Be honest and dependable; take responsibility for what you do.
Never cheat or lie. When you make a promise, keep it. When you screw up, admit it.
Without honesty, dependability and responsibility, the other nine secrets of success don’t add up to much.
Always remember that you are what you think. In fact, a study shows that
Monday, August 17, 2009
SIMPLE ADVICE ON HOW TO KEEP YOURSELF HEALTHY
Am not going to talk to you about medicine or anything relating to that, but just want to make you realize the common necessities about your body and how it operates and how it should be kept on check.
Firstly human beings are creations made by God all mighty, to be dependent on foods and water and all other compulsory things on earth, so far ever since the world was made, human have been going from invention to inventions.
Now let’s look at the following examples.
Car.
Generator.
Now many will wonder how does car and generator contribute to this discussion, but this inventions, are the main examples to make you realize how you can keep your body healthy and on the check. For instance if you have a car, you have been using this car for sometime without a problem and suddenly it starts giving you problems, and when you take it to a mechanic, the mechanic says that something is wrong with the engine.
Now let’s put your body in place of that engine, one of the things human fail to recognize about their system is that it works as an engine, and it needs constant check up with a doctor to know if it is staying healthy or not, every part of our body is a single system and deserves a check up, if we are to declare ourselves fit and healthy.
Now just like a car needs petrol and oil and all other things to work properly, so do we humans need recommended drugs and excise to keep our body and system functioning well, if an engine oil in a car has been in use for a pretty long time, a good mechanic will recommend that the oil be change, else it might cause damage to our body, that application is the same to our body, just like some kind of food that we eat, we need to make a check and know the kind of food and drinks that is good enough for our body.
The human body and system do not function the same, everybody has a different system and body response, that’s why some things will work for someone and it won’t work for the other, you have to make sure you are using the right thing, food, drinks or walk out strategy that is recommended for your system to be able to have a good and healthy life.
Check your body today and know how it is doing, it’s always good to stay on the saver side of life. If you want to make the best out of it, just like there’s an expiring date for everything so goes for life, but you can extend your days if you apply the right method, and follow the instructions on the manual, don’t always over work your body, our abilities are different, that Mr a can do a particular thing doesn’t mean you can as well, he/she has made the body fit enough for that thing, so check yourself today and be sure you are fit enough for that task you are going to do, the consequences of stress is usually not good.
Firstly human beings are creations made by God all mighty, to be dependent on foods and water and all other compulsory things on earth, so far ever since the world was made, human have been going from invention to inventions.
Now let’s look at the following examples.
Car.
Generator.
Now many will wonder how does car and generator contribute to this discussion, but this inventions, are the main examples to make you realize how you can keep your body healthy and on the check. For instance if you have a car, you have been using this car for sometime without a problem and suddenly it starts giving you problems, and when you take it to a mechanic, the mechanic says that something is wrong with the engine.
Now let’s put your body in place of that engine, one of the things human fail to recognize about their system is that it works as an engine, and it needs constant check up with a doctor to know if it is staying healthy or not, every part of our body is a single system and deserves a check up, if we are to declare ourselves fit and healthy.
Now just like a car needs petrol and oil and all other things to work properly, so do we humans need recommended drugs and excise to keep our body and system functioning well, if an engine oil in a car has been in use for a pretty long time, a good mechanic will recommend that the oil be change, else it might cause damage to our body, that application is the same to our body, just like some kind of food that we eat, we need to make a check and know the kind of food and drinks that is good enough for our body.
The human body and system do not function the same, everybody has a different system and body response, that’s why some things will work for someone and it won’t work for the other, you have to make sure you are using the right thing, food, drinks or walk out strategy that is recommended for your system to be able to have a good and healthy life.
Check your body today and know how it is doing, it’s always good to stay on the saver side of life. If you want to make the best out of it, just like there’s an expiring date for everything so goes for life, but you can extend your days if you apply the right method, and follow the instructions on the manual, don’t always over work your body, our abilities are different, that Mr a can do a particular thing doesn’t mean you can as well, he/she has made the body fit enough for that thing, so check yourself today and be sure you are fit enough for that task you are going to do, the consequences of stress is usually not good.
HOW TO DISCOVER YOUR TALENT
Talents are natural gifts that a person is born with, and they are to be discovered by the owner. Some of them have been developed already; others are still waiting to be discovered, one thing you need to know is that no one will and can help you to discover your talent, its something you have to notice about you and respect the feeling and following it up. In any case, if you want to be happy in life, you will have to start expressing your most important talents. These key talents are an essential part of your mission on earth. The very reason you have received them is for you to offer them to others, to use them to help others and this way find satisfaction for yourself. Nobody else can implement your mission the way you can.
These powerful aspects and abilities of yours desire’s to be used. If not, then you will feel disappointed, tired, burdened, frustrated and irritated. Every activity, every project requires certain capacities and preferences.
For instance, if your job requires certain abilities that you miss, then you will get over loaded and worked out. On the other hand, if your talents are not required for the job you are presently doing, you will feel resistance and bored. It is crucially important to know your talents and to create the kind of environment where they can come forward and flourish.
Now here are some steps to discovering your talents.
Take a few minutes to think about yourself. You already possess many abilities, things you accomplish without even thinking about it, without effort. Many things you have learned and mastered are now easily achieved. What talents of yours have been fully activated? These are the talents you use routinely, things you can do easily. Things you can do with learning how to. Make a list of everything you can do easily and of every talent and quality you possess already. This list should be long, at least 30 items, but more is better. You have more than your obvious, visible talents. You also have stored talents. These are talents you know you have but you are not using them. The reasons for this are often excuses like “I’m too busy, I don’t dare to, I’m not sure if I’m good enough at that, I’m afraid to make a fool of myself, I’m too old to start that now,” and so on. Another reason could be that you fear your life might well take a totally different turn when you start focusing on this talent of yours! It’s possible that you alone are aware of your talent for singing or acting. Maybe you’re a writer in disguise. But you’re afraid to come forward out of fear. You are afraid that you’re not good enough after all, or that you would have to quit your current way of living when you are truly “discovered!” This long list of your talents contains your key talents. Key talents are qualities that are outstanding, talents you are known for, talents that are so typical for you that, if one took them away from you, you wouldn’t be the same person anymore. What are these talents or qualities? Can it be your enthusiasm, your communication skills, your sensitivity, your organizational talents, your brilliant voice, or what? What talents do you have that are such a big part of your identity that your friends cannot image you without them? These are the most visible and out-standing. What are you known for? What would your friends say about you if they had to describe you in just a few words?
Sometimes talents are discovered during your worse moments, for instance a boy once told me that, he discovered one of his talents when he finished his high school, at that moment he had no job, no money and was completely empty. Well he said one day he was lying down on the floor of their parlor, just staring through the open door at the cloud, and some inspiration just came into him, he started thinking of stories and found out that he had just came up with a movie script idea, he started writing and just without any tutorial on script writing, he created the scene and made a movie, he wrote over 150 pages and more, that period he had written two scripts, he discovered that he could write books and scripts, now from this story you will discover that he was taught nothing he’s done, that’s what talent is, it is in you already all you need to do is give it the time and the concentration needed and you will be just fine.
Well, once you've identified your dominant natural talents, and assessed to what extent you've developed them into strengths, you can ask yourself:
1. What do I want to achieve with my life?
2. What are my purpose and goals?
3. Which are my most important natural talents I want to develop further?
4. Which of my natural talents can contribute most to achieving my purpose and goals?
5. What do I have to do to develop these talents into strengths?
6. What knowledge do I need to learn to develop these talents?
7. What skills do I need to acquire or improve to develop these talents?
8. What weaknesses do I need to overcome to develop these talents?
These key talents are the core of your mission on earth. This is the purpose of your life: to discover your talents (your Divine Gifts) and to offer them to those who are meant to get in contact with you, in order to make this world a better place to live.
These powerful aspects and abilities of yours desire’s to be used. If not, then you will feel disappointed, tired, burdened, frustrated and irritated. Every activity, every project requires certain capacities and preferences.
For instance, if your job requires certain abilities that you miss, then you will get over loaded and worked out. On the other hand, if your talents are not required for the job you are presently doing, you will feel resistance and bored. It is crucially important to know your talents and to create the kind of environment where they can come forward and flourish.
Now here are some steps to discovering your talents.
Take a few minutes to think about yourself. You already possess many abilities, things you accomplish without even thinking about it, without effort. Many things you have learned and mastered are now easily achieved. What talents of yours have been fully activated? These are the talents you use routinely, things you can do easily. Things you can do with learning how to. Make a list of everything you can do easily and of every talent and quality you possess already. This list should be long, at least 30 items, but more is better. You have more than your obvious, visible talents. You also have stored talents. These are talents you know you have but you are not using them. The reasons for this are often excuses like “I’m too busy, I don’t dare to, I’m not sure if I’m good enough at that, I’m afraid to make a fool of myself, I’m too old to start that now,” and so on. Another reason could be that you fear your life might well take a totally different turn when you start focusing on this talent of yours! It’s possible that you alone are aware of your talent for singing or acting. Maybe you’re a writer in disguise. But you’re afraid to come forward out of fear. You are afraid that you’re not good enough after all, or that you would have to quit your current way of living when you are truly “discovered!” This long list of your talents contains your key talents. Key talents are qualities that are outstanding, talents you are known for, talents that are so typical for you that, if one took them away from you, you wouldn’t be the same person anymore. What are these talents or qualities? Can it be your enthusiasm, your communication skills, your sensitivity, your organizational talents, your brilliant voice, or what? What talents do you have that are such a big part of your identity that your friends cannot image you without them? These are the most visible and out-standing. What are you known for? What would your friends say about you if they had to describe you in just a few words?
Sometimes talents are discovered during your worse moments, for instance a boy once told me that, he discovered one of his talents when he finished his high school, at that moment he had no job, no money and was completely empty. Well he said one day he was lying down on the floor of their parlor, just staring through the open door at the cloud, and some inspiration just came into him, he started thinking of stories and found out that he had just came up with a movie script idea, he started writing and just without any tutorial on script writing, he created the scene and made a movie, he wrote over 150 pages and more, that period he had written two scripts, he discovered that he could write books and scripts, now from this story you will discover that he was taught nothing he’s done, that’s what talent is, it is in you already all you need to do is give it the time and the concentration needed and you will be just fine.
Well, once you've identified your dominant natural talents, and assessed to what extent you've developed them into strengths, you can ask yourself:
1. What do I want to achieve with my life?
2. What are my purpose and goals?
3. Which are my most important natural talents I want to develop further?
4. Which of my natural talents can contribute most to achieving my purpose and goals?
5. What do I have to do to develop these talents into strengths?
6. What knowledge do I need to learn to develop these talents?
7. What skills do I need to acquire or improve to develop these talents?
8. What weaknesses do I need to overcome to develop these talents?
These key talents are the core of your mission on earth. This is the purpose of your life: to discover your talents (your Divine Gifts) and to offer them to those who are meant to get in contact with you, in order to make this world a better place to live.
Tuesday, August 11, 2009
HOW TO CONTROL AN ANGRY PARTNER
Human beings are generally allowed to be angry, because it’s a way of expression of something upsetting, annoying, frustrating, or disappointing. But when a person’s anger is becoming uncontrollable it becomes a problem to him, his partner and the society. Usually, anger is an emotion that covers for another emotion.
Possible causes of anger
Frustration
Irritability
Disappointment
Frustration, irritability, anger and temper outbursts are behaviors that most of us experience in our lives, Aggressive behaviors can be particularly disturbing to the family because they can be a source of fear and tension in the household or in the care facility. When a partner is use to getting angry and upset easily, he/she is creating a bad atmosphere for their family, anger comes with lots of consequences those of which you won’t see but realize after it has been done, personal behavior can determine the rate a person’s anger can reach, eg. A person that acts on assumption would just imagine a thing that he/she feels is likely to or has happen and would act on it, and depending on what the circumstance or situation is might lead to a great damage.
The following cases are examples of expression of anger, frustration, irritability and temper
“He bought a cell phone for me but when he got upset over a meaningless thing he just got the phone and smashed it on the floor, and it got ruin totally.
"When I have trouble understanding what he is saying he quickly becomes frustrated and sometimes violent. I guess he feels his actions speak louder then words."
"She insists upon balancing her own cheque book even though she can no longer perform this task successfully. When I try to help out she becomes angry with me."
"When I tried to introduce a new activity he became irritable and refused to make an attempt to participate."
"I asked him to get dressed for the recreation centre. He said No, so I said Come on, you need to get dressed and he slapped me."
"I’ve always lefts my ice cream bowl in the family room when I fall asleep on the couch at night. In the morning she typically finds it and is annoyed that I didn’t take it to the kitchen and rinse out the bowl. Now she totally loses it. She screams at me over this little sticky ice cream bowl. I can’t believe it."
Possible Causes
• This could be due to many reason’s, possibly because he feels you are totally dependent on him and has no backup from your family side, this and many other possible reason’s as the circumstance maybe.
• Feelings of frustration and anger and their subsequent reactions are usually triggered by real and legitimate events in life, but the brain cannot control the intensity of the response.
• Frustration and irritability can arise from circumstances that emphasize a loss of ability to function physically, cognitively, or emotionally. Underlying causes or triggers of this kind of behavior include hunger, pain, inability to communicate, frustration with failing capabilities, boredom, difficult interpersonal relationships and, in particular, minor changes in routine.
• Usually, anger is an emotion that covers for another emotion. Typically when individual experiences anger the underlying feeling is disappointment, grief, hurt, frustration, or anxiety of something that had happen before.
• Frustration, irritability, anger, and temper outbursts are expressed in response to a true feeling, but with HD they become exaggerated due to a loss of control from the caudate.
POSSIBLE STEPS TO HANDLE AN ANGRY PARTNER
Try to identify circumstances that trigger temper out-bursts and then avoid them.
Confrontations and ultimatums should be avoided
Try talking to the person when you are both alone
There are medications that can control irritability. It is important to see a physician who has current knowledge of Huntington disease
Sometimes silence is the quick answer to calming an angry person
Try understanding the person’s total behavior, what the person likes, that makes them happy, always put this in mind, he/she is aware of your kindness towards them, some might not want to show it at the moment but sure have taken note.
Possible causes of anger
Frustration
Irritability
Disappointment
Frustration, irritability, anger and temper outbursts are behaviors that most of us experience in our lives, Aggressive behaviors can be particularly disturbing to the family because they can be a source of fear and tension in the household or in the care facility. When a partner is use to getting angry and upset easily, he/she is creating a bad atmosphere for their family, anger comes with lots of consequences those of which you won’t see but realize after it has been done, personal behavior can determine the rate a person’s anger can reach, eg. A person that acts on assumption would just imagine a thing that he/she feels is likely to or has happen and would act on it, and depending on what the circumstance or situation is might lead to a great damage.
The following cases are examples of expression of anger, frustration, irritability and temper
“He bought a cell phone for me but when he got upset over a meaningless thing he just got the phone and smashed it on the floor, and it got ruin totally.
"When I have trouble understanding what he is saying he quickly becomes frustrated and sometimes violent. I guess he feels his actions speak louder then words."
"She insists upon balancing her own cheque book even though she can no longer perform this task successfully. When I try to help out she becomes angry with me."
"When I tried to introduce a new activity he became irritable and refused to make an attempt to participate."
"I asked him to get dressed for the recreation centre. He said No, so I said Come on, you need to get dressed and he slapped me."
"I’ve always lefts my ice cream bowl in the family room when I fall asleep on the couch at night. In the morning she typically finds it and is annoyed that I didn’t take it to the kitchen and rinse out the bowl. Now she totally loses it. She screams at me over this little sticky ice cream bowl. I can’t believe it."
Possible Causes
• This could be due to many reason’s, possibly because he feels you are totally dependent on him and has no backup from your family side, this and many other possible reason’s as the circumstance maybe.
• Feelings of frustration and anger and their subsequent reactions are usually triggered by real and legitimate events in life, but the brain cannot control the intensity of the response.
• Frustration and irritability can arise from circumstances that emphasize a loss of ability to function physically, cognitively, or emotionally. Underlying causes or triggers of this kind of behavior include hunger, pain, inability to communicate, frustration with failing capabilities, boredom, difficult interpersonal relationships and, in particular, minor changes in routine.
• Usually, anger is an emotion that covers for another emotion. Typically when individual experiences anger the underlying feeling is disappointment, grief, hurt, frustration, or anxiety of something that had happen before.
• Frustration, irritability, anger, and temper outbursts are expressed in response to a true feeling, but with HD they become exaggerated due to a loss of control from the caudate.
POSSIBLE STEPS TO HANDLE AN ANGRY PARTNER
Try to identify circumstances that trigger temper out-bursts and then avoid them.
Confrontations and ultimatums should be avoided
Try talking to the person when you are both alone
There are medications that can control irritability. It is important to see a physician who has current knowledge of Huntington disease
Sometimes silence is the quick answer to calming an angry person
Try understanding the person’s total behavior, what the person likes, that makes them happy, always put this in mind, he/she is aware of your kindness towards them, some might not want to show it at the moment but sure have taken note.
Friday, August 7, 2009
WHEN THE HEART IS AS PEACEFUL AS THE WIND
CONSEQUENCES OF INFERIORITY COMPLEX IN THE SOCIETY
What is inferiority complex?
The oxford dictionary defines inferiority complex as a feeling that you are not as good, as important, or intelligent as others, that is correct, but let’s now define it more realistically.
Inferiority complex is a state of mind in which a person feels or is made to feel he/she is not as good as others in what ever category of life the circumstance may apply to.
People really need to think deep about why they are made they way there are, but I will tell why, its obvious that you are unique and special, look around you there’s no one like you, you are the first of your kind the is no other that is you, you are you and they can’t be another. You might not accept this but those you wish you have what they are having, at lease those you can see and that are around you, are wishing the same about you, but you will fine it hard to believe because you can’t take the time you have taken to look at them, to look at yourself first, they have found what you haven’t about you, just like you have found what they haven’t about themselves.
The greatest love we seek is the one we have, its in us and its us, we need to love ourselves, love the way you look and appear in the mirror, however you are and what ever you are, you can’t say you love a person when do not love our own self, think and look deep inside you and you will realize that the greatest love starts the very first day we begin to love and appreciate they way we are and look, because that feeling brings security, fulfillment, happiness, and boldness and self confidence. What matters the most about your life and you is the things that you let in inside, you have to put yourself in the position to always have the final say concerning anything related with you. The problem with most people today is that they focus more on wishing they were, than focusing on how they are, one thing you have to know is that no matter how perfect a person looks, there’s no such thing has perfect. Every body and everything have their short comings, but the problem is that many people see themselves as the only one with it. You can’t have it all; you work toward making what you have all you have. e.g
Many blacks these day fail to recognize the potentiality of their black skin, the uniqueness of its nature, a priceless color, black skin is the only skin color that can’t be built, and that’s because it was specially made, so those wearing such colors should be thankful and appreciative of what they have, that’s why something the saying of we do not know what we have until we lose it really hurts, when its gone.
CAUSES OF INFERIORITY COMPLEX
Inferiority complex are caused in different ways, conscious and subconsciously, and it is easily picked up by the victim, a friend can say it jokingly and they will all laugh about it, but the person whom its said to, might also laugh or put a swift smile but has taken note, it might not be at the spot but later it will spring to his/her mind, and there it begins. That is subconscious act of inferiority complex, the conscious aspect is when a person looks at you and list to your face things he/she sees on you, that makes you looks what they would call ugly. Stigma kills but in this case affects more than what ever it is that is being stigmatized. So if you are engaging on pointing others short comings to them take a little minute to think at the journey you are beginning and also you would like to remove the dirt from your eye so you can see clearly.
CONSEQUENCES OF INFERIORITY COMPLEX
This little thing that sounds like just a word in most people’s lips can lead to death in the long run, engaging in business that makes others feel bad about themselves is a very dangerous thing, people who are affected emotionally by this stigma would do anything humanly possible to get rid of what ever it is that people say about them to make them feel this way, a very good examples of a person who on along run lost his life as a result of inferiority complex from the people around him, his own family members is our great legend Michael Jackson, we all know he was said to have had a nose surgery due to the fact that his brothers even father use to call him big nose, his brothers would use that jokingly to make fun of him, and when he had the money he decided to make things right as he thought, anybody that saw Michael would wish he was like him, that even lead to him turning himself to fully white, he was the envy of many in the world, he had it all, I myself at a point had wish I could do the things he does, because am his greatest fan, but it just rather unfortunate that all that glitters isn’t gold, the biggest mistake about you starts the very second you start wishing you were someone else and start buying negative things people say concerning you and letting it get into you, because if Michael had not allowed what his family members were saying about him get into him, the world would still be celebrating a living legend than celebrating a dead legend. So however you are, I want you to realize that you are specially made and that you are the only of your kind, and they can never be another you, no matter now they try. So make a diamond out of you. Michael would wish the same for himself if he could get a second chance.
CONSEQUENCES OF AN IDLEMIND
CONSEQUENCES OF AN IDLE MIND
Lets look at the word mind and the meaning, the dictionary defines the mind as the part of a human that makes them able to be aware, to think, and to feel and there’re two ways the mind operates consciously and subconsciously, and idleness on the other hand means not working hard or not working at all, in other words not being useful to either yourself or the society.
When a person is idle, such a person has subjected his/her self to a subconscious state of mind in which he/she is living subconsciously or ignorantly, in other words giving rooms to all kinds of negative behaviors around the environment he/she is settled. There’re two facts of life we can’t change, we either spend our time engaging in activities that will benefit us either positively or negatively there isn’t two ways about it.
A man can either be idle mentally or physically or both at the same time, when a person is said to be idle mentally and his physical being is engaged in a profitable activity, such a person thinks and cares about nothing else but whatever it is that he/she is doing at the moment. But when a person is idle physically his/her mind is widely open and enable to receive both positive and negative ideas that comes around, But when a person is physically and mentally idle which is the critical stage, such a person is completely at the highest point of a subconscious life, at this point his/her mind works like that of a new born baby, just doing and following what ever he/she sees others,
Without thinking of the possible consequences of what he/she is engaging itself into because such a mind is operating sub-consciously, at this stage new characters are beginning to spring out from such a person and mostly negative behaviors and attitudes.
CONSEQUENCES OF AN IDLE MIND
The following are the common characteristics of an idle mind.
1) Frustration
2) Easily angry
3) Feeling of rejection
4) Finding fault about everything
5) Regrets
6) Desperate. And others
Besides these features listed above, there’re lots of other effects as the circumstance may present its self. An idle mind is like a magnet waiting to capture any metal item crossing its way, it’s so sharp and quick, that’s the way the mind of an idle man works, idleness is a very dangerous thing to be engaged with, it’s the beginning of a new negative chapter of a person’s life that is in it, an idle person is a frustrated person and a very unhappy person, and such is a danger to the society, idleness gives a person rooms of options filled with negative activities, an idle person is a frustrated person, frustrated about everything around him/her and always sees the negative side of everything around him/her, a frustrated and a idle person never sees the possibility in a thing because he/she is not thinking at all, that’s when the mind is acting on a sub conscious stage, all such a person sees and possibly wants to hear is all sort of negative talks, at a point he/she would be ready to do anything to make it in life regardless of the consequences that’s when he/she is said to be desperate and frustrated, two bad combination, because such a person is acting and living a subconscious life.
That is why when ever a person is caught doing something wrong or illegal, stealing, or committing a crime, suddenly his/her eyes becomes clearer to the true reality of things in the conscious world, the feeling is like someone taking off a blind folding material off your eyes and you suddenly can see things more clearly, but in this case the clear things such a person will be seeing will be the regrets, fear, and shame which are the result of the consequences he/she will or has faced, at that point you will wish you could rewind the pass few minutes of your life and make things right it will be too late, such a person only has to face the consequences but not many are always lucky to have a second chance to make things right, so why not start seeing the future from today and avoid seeing it the hard way, remember nothing good comes easy and the idle mind is the devil’s workshop.
Lets look at the word mind and the meaning, the dictionary defines the mind as the part of a human that makes them able to be aware, to think, and to feel and there’re two ways the mind operates consciously and subconsciously, and idleness on the other hand means not working hard or not working at all, in other words not being useful to either yourself or the society.
When a person is idle, such a person has subjected his/her self to a subconscious state of mind in which he/she is living subconsciously or ignorantly, in other words giving rooms to all kinds of negative behaviors around the environment he/she is settled. There’re two facts of life we can’t change, we either spend our time engaging in activities that will benefit us either positively or negatively there isn’t two ways about it.
A man can either be idle mentally or physically or both at the same time, when a person is said to be idle mentally and his physical being is engaged in a profitable activity, such a person thinks and cares about nothing else but whatever it is that he/she is doing at the moment. But when a person is idle physically his/her mind is widely open and enable to receive both positive and negative ideas that comes around, But when a person is physically and mentally idle which is the critical stage, such a person is completely at the highest point of a subconscious life, at this point his/her mind works like that of a new born baby, just doing and following what ever he/she sees others,
Without thinking of the possible consequences of what he/she is engaging itself into because such a mind is operating sub-consciously, at this stage new characters are beginning to spring out from such a person and mostly negative behaviors and attitudes.
CONSEQUENCES OF AN IDLE MIND
The following are the common characteristics of an idle mind.
1) Frustration
2) Easily angry
3) Feeling of rejection
4) Finding fault about everything
5) Regrets
6) Desperate. And others
Besides these features listed above, there’re lots of other effects as the circumstance may present its self. An idle mind is like a magnet waiting to capture any metal item crossing its way, it’s so sharp and quick, that’s the way the mind of an idle man works, idleness is a very dangerous thing to be engaged with, it’s the beginning of a new negative chapter of a person’s life that is in it, an idle person is a frustrated person and a very unhappy person, and such is a danger to the society, idleness gives a person rooms of options filled with negative activities, an idle person is a frustrated person, frustrated about everything around him/her and always sees the negative side of everything around him/her, a frustrated and a idle person never sees the possibility in a thing because he/she is not thinking at all, that’s when the mind is acting on a sub conscious stage, all such a person sees and possibly wants to hear is all sort of negative talks, at a point he/she would be ready to do anything to make it in life regardless of the consequences that’s when he/she is said to be desperate and frustrated, two bad combination, because such a person is acting and living a subconscious life.
That is why when ever a person is caught doing something wrong or illegal, stealing, or committing a crime, suddenly his/her eyes becomes clearer to the true reality of things in the conscious world, the feeling is like someone taking off a blind folding material off your eyes and you suddenly can see things more clearly, but in this case the clear things such a person will be seeing will be the regrets, fear, and shame which are the result of the consequences he/she will or has faced, at that point you will wish you could rewind the pass few minutes of your life and make things right it will be too late, such a person only has to face the consequences but not many are always lucky to have a second chance to make things right, so why not start seeing the future from today and avoid seeing it the hard way, remember nothing good comes easy and the idle mind is the devil’s workshop.
Monday, August 3, 2009
CONSEQUENCES OF INFERIORITY COMPLEX IN THE SOCIETY
CONSEQUENCES OF INFERIORITY COMPLEX IN THE SOCIETY
What is inferiority complex?
The oxford dictionary defines inferiority complex as a feeling that you are not as good, as important, or intelligent as others, that is correct, but let’s now define it more realistically.
Inferiority complex is a state of mind in which a person feels or is made to feel he/she is not as good as others in what ever category of life the circumstance may apply to.
People really need to think deep about why they are made they way there are, but I will tell why, its obvious that you are unique and special, look around you there’s no one like you, you are the first of your kind the is no other that is you, you are you and they can’t be another. You might not accept this but those you wish you have what they are having, at lease those you can see and that are around you, are wishing the same about you, but you will fine it hard to believe because you can’t take the time you have taken to look at them, to look at yourself first, they have found what you haven’t about you, just like you have found what they haven’t about themselves.
The greatest love we seek is the one we have, its in us and its us, we need to love ourselves, love the way you look and appear in the mirror, however you are and what ever you are, you can’t say you love a person when do not love our own self, think and look deep inside you and you will realize that the greatest love starts the very first day we begin to love and appreciate they way we are and look, because that feeling brings security, fulfillment, happiness, and boldness and self confidence. What matters the most about your life and you is the things that you let in inside, you have to put yourself in the position to always have the final say concerning anything related with you. The problem with most people today is that they focus more on wishing they were, than focusing on how they are, one thing you have to know is that no matter how perfect a person looks, there’s no such thing has perfect. Every body and everything have their short comings, but the problem is that many people see themselves as the only one with it. You can’t have it all; you work toward making what you have all you have. e.g
Many blacks these day fail to recognize the potentiality of their black skin, the uniqueness of its nature, a priceless color, black skin is the only skin color that can’t be built, and that’s because it was specially made, so those wearing such colors should be thankful and appreciative of what they have, that’s why something the saying of we do not know what we have until we lose it really hurts, when its gone.
CAUSES OF INFERIORITY COMPLEX
Inferiority complex are caused in different ways, conscious and subconsciously, and it is easily picked up by the victim, a friend can say it jokingly and they will all laugh about it, but the person whom its said to, might also laugh or put a swift smile but has taken note, it might not be at the spot but later it will spring to his/her mind, and there it begins. That is subconscious act of inferiority complex, the conscious aspect is when a person looks at you and list to your face things he/she sees on you, that makes you looks what they would call ugly. Stigma kills but in this case affects more than what ever it is that is being stigmatized. So if you are engaging on pointing others short comings to them take a little minute to think at the journey you are beginning and also you would like to remove the dirt from your eye so you can see clearly.
CONSEQUENCES OF INFERIORITY COMPLEX
This little thing that sounds like just a word in most people’s lips can lead to death in the long run, engaging in business that makes others feel bad about themselves is a very dangerous thing, people who are affected emotionally by this stigma would do anything humanly possible to get rid of what ever it is that people say about them to make them feel this way, a very good examples of a person who on along run lost his life as a result of inferiority complex from the people around him, his own family members is our great legend Michael Jackson, we all know he was said to have had a nose surgery due to the fact that his brothers even father use to call him big nose, his brothers would use that jokingly to make fun of him, and when he had the money he decided to make things right as he thought, anybody that saw Michael would wish he was like him, that even lead to him turning himself to fully white, he was the envy of many in the world, he had it all, I myself at a point had wish I could do the things he does, because am his greatest fan, but it just rather unfortunate that all that glitters isn’t gold, the biggest mistake about you starts the very second you start wishing you were someone else and start buying negative things people say concerning you and letting it get into you, because if Michael had not allowed what his family members were saying about him get into him, the world would still be celebrating a living legend than celebrating a dead legend. So however you are, I want you to realize that you are specially made and that you are the only of your kind, and they can never be another you, no matter now they try. So make a diamond out of you. Michael would wish the same for himself if he could get a second chance.
What is inferiority complex?
The oxford dictionary defines inferiority complex as a feeling that you are not as good, as important, or intelligent as others, that is correct, but let’s now define it more realistically.
Inferiority complex is a state of mind in which a person feels or is made to feel he/she is not as good as others in what ever category of life the circumstance may apply to.
People really need to think deep about why they are made they way there are, but I will tell why, its obvious that you are unique and special, look around you there’s no one like you, you are the first of your kind the is no other that is you, you are you and they can’t be another. You might not accept this but those you wish you have what they are having, at lease those you can see and that are around you, are wishing the same about you, but you will fine it hard to believe because you can’t take the time you have taken to look at them, to look at yourself first, they have found what you haven’t about you, just like you have found what they haven’t about themselves.
The greatest love we seek is the one we have, its in us and its us, we need to love ourselves, love the way you look and appear in the mirror, however you are and what ever you are, you can’t say you love a person when do not love our own self, think and look deep inside you and you will realize that the greatest love starts the very first day we begin to love and appreciate they way we are and look, because that feeling brings security, fulfillment, happiness, and boldness and self confidence. What matters the most about your life and you is the things that you let in inside, you have to put yourself in the position to always have the final say concerning anything related with you. The problem with most people today is that they focus more on wishing they were, than focusing on how they are, one thing you have to know is that no matter how perfect a person looks, there’s no such thing has perfect. Every body and everything have their short comings, but the problem is that many people see themselves as the only one with it. You can’t have it all; you work toward making what you have all you have. e.g
Many blacks these day fail to recognize the potentiality of their black skin, the uniqueness of its nature, a priceless color, black skin is the only skin color that can’t be built, and that’s because it was specially made, so those wearing such colors should be thankful and appreciative of what they have, that’s why something the saying of we do not know what we have until we lose it really hurts, when its gone.
CAUSES OF INFERIORITY COMPLEX
Inferiority complex are caused in different ways, conscious and subconsciously, and it is easily picked up by the victim, a friend can say it jokingly and they will all laugh about it, but the person whom its said to, might also laugh or put a swift smile but has taken note, it might not be at the spot but later it will spring to his/her mind, and there it begins. That is subconscious act of inferiority complex, the conscious aspect is when a person looks at you and list to your face things he/she sees on you, that makes you looks what they would call ugly. Stigma kills but in this case affects more than what ever it is that is being stigmatized. So if you are engaging on pointing others short comings to them take a little minute to think at the journey you are beginning and also you would like to remove the dirt from your eye so you can see clearly.
CONSEQUENCES OF INFERIORITY COMPLEX
This little thing that sounds like just a word in most people’s lips can lead to death in the long run, engaging in business that makes others feel bad about themselves is a very dangerous thing, people who are affected emotionally by this stigma would do anything humanly possible to get rid of what ever it is that people say about them to make them feel this way, a very good examples of a person who on along run lost his life as a result of inferiority complex from the people around him, his own family members is our great legend Michael Jackson, we all know he was said to have had a nose surgery due to the fact that his brothers even father use to call him big nose, his brothers would use that jokingly to make fun of him, and when he had the money he decided to make things right as he thought, anybody that saw Michael would wish he was like him, that even lead to him turning himself to fully white, he was the envy of many in the world, he had it all, I myself at a point had wish I could do the things he does, because am his greatest fan, but it just rather unfortunate that all that glitters isn’t gold, the biggest mistake about you starts the very second you start wishing you were someone else and start buying negative things people say concerning you and letting it get into you, because if Michael had not allowed what his family members were saying about him get into him, the world would still be celebrating a living legend than celebrating a dead legend. So however you are, I want you to realize that you are specially made and that you are the only of your kind, and they can never be another you, no matter now they try. So make a diamond out of you. Michael would wish the same for himself if he could get a second chance.
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