HOW TO CONTROL AN ANGRY PARTNER

Human beings are generally allowed to be angry, because it’s a way of expression of something upsetting, annoying, frustrating, or disappointing. But when a person’s anger is becoming uncontrollable it becomes a problem to him, his partner and the society. Usually, anger is an emotion that covers for another emotion.

Possible causes of anger

Frustration
Irritability
Disappointment

Frustration, irritability, anger and temper outbursts are behaviors that most of us experience in our lives, Aggressive behaviors can be particularly disturbing to the family because they can be a source of fear and tension in the household or in the care facility. When a partner is use to getting angry and upset easily, he/she is creating a bad atmosphere for their family, anger comes with lots of consequences those of which you won’t see but realize after it has been done, personal behavior can determine the rate a person’s anger can reach, eg. A person that acts on assumption would just imagine a thing that he/she feels is likely to or has happen and would act on it, and depending on what the circumstance or situation is might lead to a great damage.

The following cases are examples of expression of anger, frustration, irritability and temper

“He bought a cell phone for me but when he got upset over a meaningless thing he just got the phone and smashed it on the floor, and it got ruin totally.

"When I have trouble understanding what he is saying he quickly becomes frustrated and sometimes violent. I guess he feels his actions speak louder then words."
"She insists upon balancing her own cheque book even though she can no longer perform this task successfully. When I try to help out she becomes angry with me."
"When I tried to introduce a new activity he became irritable and refused to make an attempt to participate."
"I asked him to get dressed for the recreation centre. He said No, so I said Come on, you need to get dressed and he slapped me."
"I’ve always lefts my ice cream bowl in the family room when I fall asleep on the couch at night. In the morning she typically finds it and is annoyed that I didn’t take it to the kitchen and rinse out the bowl. Now she totally loses it. She screams at me over this little sticky ice cream bowl. I can’t believe it."

Possible Causes

• This could be due to many reason’s, possibly because he feels you are totally dependent on him and has no backup from your family side, this and many other possible reason’s as the circumstance maybe.
• Feelings of frustration and anger and their subsequent reactions are usually triggered by real and legitimate events in life, but the brain cannot control the intensity of the response.
• Frustration and irritability can arise from circumstances that emphasize a loss of ability to function physically, cognitively, or emotionally. Underlying causes or triggers of this kind of behavior include hunger, pain, inability to communicate, frustration with failing capabilities, boredom, difficult interpersonal relationships and, in particular, minor changes in routine.
• Usually, anger is an emotion that covers for another emotion. Typically when individual experiences anger the underlying feeling is disappointment, grief, hurt, frustration, or anxiety of something that had happen before.
• Frustration, irritability, anger, and temper outbursts are expressed in response to a true feeling, but with HD they become exaggerated due to a loss of control from the caudate.

POSSIBLE STEPS TO HANDLE AN ANGRY PARTNER
Try to identify circumstances that trigger temper out-bursts and then avoid them.
Confrontations and ultimatums should be avoided
Try talking to the person when you are both alone
There are medications that can control irritability. It is important to see a physician who has current knowledge of Huntington disease
Sometimes silence is the quick answer to calming an angry person
Try understanding the person’s total behavior, what the person likes, that makes them happy, always put this in mind, he/she is aware of your kindness towards them, some might not want to show it at the moment but sure have taken note.